#7: The heart has always got room for more
On insecurity and abundance
Dear reader,
This week’s newsletter feels vulnerable. I hope you read it with an open heart.
On insecurity and on loving
In the past when I got close to people, I would usually worry if someone might become more important than me, if I would become less significant, if I could be replaced, if I could be forgotten.
Over the years I’ve learnt beautifully to quieten this inner voice, to let another voice from within speak louder. Here are a few things I have taught myself over the years that have brought me incomparable amounts of peace.
1) Their loss
Quite literally ‘‘their loss.’’ While this might sound arrogant at the onset, hang in there and hear me out. Have a self-faith so strong that you realise, somebody leaving you is their loss not yours, they miss out on having the stunning magnificent human that you are. I keep reminding myself with such unshakable conviction that ‘‘I am a stunning magnificent human worthy of being cherished.’’
‘‘In the history of the world there has been nobody like you. For infinite times to come there will be nobody like you. You are unique, rare, original. You are a masterpiece.’’
2) The heart is HUMONGOUS
The heart IS humongous; there is always room to love more. This fist-sized muscular organ can hold universes within it.
Teach yourself to find immense joy in your loved ones finding new companions, finding new people that they cherish an existence with. Once you start seeing the heart as humongous, no new person will ever feel like a threat to your relationship.
I have a really close friend who embodies this personality. This friend has many many friends, doesn’t hesitate to make new friends and yet has massive genuine love to give to each person. Being around such people constantly reminds me - Love is not divisible but is ever expansive; there is always room to love more.
3) Love is a giving emotion
Anytime that I feel even for the slightest second worried that I am growing less important and cherished to someone I love, I remind myself that love is a giving emotion. The absolute best way for me to feel loved is by making someone feel loved. Love is a giving emotion and the more of it that you give to others, the more of it you will experience through your own actions.
Completely changing the responsibility of oh ‘‘it’s a them thing’’ to ‘‘it’s a me thing’’ has made me feel so much more in control of how I feel; I get to decide how loved I feel rather than feeling like a victim of love unreceived.
Its alright, be the one who always remembers to call, be the one who always texts first, be the lover, the expresser, the giver in the relationship.
Love abundantly. Give abundantly.
That’s all for this week my lovelies. Let me end this week’s newsletter with yet another love poem by yours truly.
I love you I love you Like dipping puff pastry in sugar milk and eating spoons full of it Like watching a clipping of sea otters cuddling themselves to sleep Like walking too deep into the ocean, losing balance, becoming chaos under waves and then being able to see the sky again, head propped up for a breath I love you Like having a 70x40 inch map unraveled on the floor and encircling upon it all the places to travel to until the world looks like it has more hula hoops than countries I love you Like finding a comfortable corner in the library and swooning over endless novels warm, safe, home Like words, beautiful words – buttons, bellies, butterscotch – honey soaked, rolling of the pillow of my tongue I love you Like a prayer hymned in silence.
I hope this week’s newsletter reminds you to love with abundance. Thank you so much for being here. If you felt something while reading this newsletter write to me, I’d love to hear from you.
I’ll see you again this Sunday.
Lots of warmth and wonder,
Vaishnavi